The Most Important Decision You Will Ever Make Is To Be Happy

The key to unlocking your happiness is right here on this page. That may sound like a big promise but I assure you - it is entirely, 100% true.

Most of life's problems come from NOT making this decision such as:

• Stress
• Arguments
• Feeling unworthy
• Unable to make a decision
• Difficulty with relatives
• Behavior challenges with your child
• ...and just about everything else you can think of

What decision could be so monumental that it covers just about EVERY life problem?

It's deceptively simple:

The decision to be happy... no matter what.

That's it: decide to be happy. Or rather: CHOOSE to be happy.

Just choose it. Time and again. Remind yourself. Let yourself. Train yourself to feel like you can have this luxury - because you can!

You know you are really choosing happiness when:

You Would Rather Be Happy Than Be Right

Yes, yes, yes, maybe your husband did you WRONG. Maybe he did it so wrong he's now your Ex. And maybe you have every reason and justification in the world to call him wrong.

Maybe even everyone else in the whole wide world would call him "wrong", too.

But does that make you happy?

Do you feel happy when you are thinking about how he did you wrong?

(Well, maybe... if you were depressed and now you are having a bit of fun being mad - because mad feels a lot better than depressed, doesn't it?) ;)

However, now time has gone by and you are still thinking about how wrong he is or was.

How happy are you feeling now?

The same goes for any of these thoughts (even justifiable, yes!) that you may keep thinking about:

• The story-that-never-changes-about-how-you-had-a-terrible-childhood
• Your kids not appreciating you
• No one lifting a finger to help you with the dishes
• Feeing like you are the only one packing up Every Last Thing for the family's vacation
• The fact that when you have small kids you cannot "just" run a few errands
• etc. etc. etc.
  
  

Until you decide that you would rather be happy than be right, you will always find reasons to be mad, upset, exhausted, overwhelmed, frustrated, irritated, depressed.

Real Happiness, Not The Fake Kind

We're aiming for real happiness - no additives, preservatives or substitutions, OK?
The following things do not count in the "be happy" department:

• Pretending you are happy when you are clearly not
• Ignoring what is really bothering you hoping it will go away
• Saying affirmations you don't really mean and then wondering why they don't work
  
  

In other words, I am not suggesting you just "put on a happy face" no matter what. We all know that when DH asks, "Is that OK, honey?" and we say, "It's fine" that a storm is brewing.

A VERY BIG storm. ;)

Here Is How Fake Happy Can Help
The goal is to choose happiness. Sometimes we don't feel happy but we want to be happy, we really, really do!

So if you find yourself putting on a fake-happy you can say to yourself,

"I'm not really feeling happy, but I want to be. So I'm not going to stop in the fake-happy department. I'm going to get back on that elevator and aim higher. I choose to be happy. Which means I'm willing to let go of what I need to let go of and embrace what I need to embrace to follow the feel-good."

If you can do that, life will lead you there.

(And maybe there are some tips and information to help you find and flow with the real happy here on this blog too.)

No Matter What
By choosing happiness, no matter what...

...no matter the finances, the challenge of motherhood, the baby learning to crawl and heading straight towards the - Eep! - ok, where was I?...

...you start to attract, manifest and create solutions. Easy solutions. Welcome solutions. 

Solutions you perhaps couldn't see before but which were right there within your grasp..
A lot of things may stand in between you and choosing happiness.

• Feeling unworthy
• The belief that only hard work pays
• The idea of the "perfect mother" that haunts your sense of accomplishment
• Fear of being selfish
• Worrying that you are being greedy thereby dooming yourself
  
  

Be kind to yourself. Creating the habit of happiness takes time.

Love yourself and know that choosing happiness for yourself is the best thing you can do for yourself and for your kids. Everything starts with that choice.

Today you might feel great. You might feel OK. Or you might feel so far from happy you can't even begin to imagine it.

But if you make the choice to head in that direction, no matter what... you will get there. I will cheer you on! Rah! Rah! Happiness!

Sending you real-happy support,
Alora

"Being happy is the cornerstone of all that you are! Nothing is more important than that you feel good! And you have absolute and utter control about that because you can choose the thought that makes you worry or the thought that makes you happy; the things that thrill you, or the things that worry you. You have the choice in every moment." --Excerpted from an Abraham-Hicks workshop in Sacramento, CA on Saturday, March 15th, 2003