The more I learn about myself the more I love myself.
I think understanding ourselves is the key to acceptance and celebration. Accepting who we are (I pack last minute for a trip no matter how much time I have on my hands). Accepting who we are not (I am not someone who is going to pack in advance no matter how much time I have on my hands.) When we learn who we are and, perhaps more importantly, who we are not, we can find our place in the world. We can find our PEACE in the world.
And we can stop pushing against other people too.
For example, I’m an ENFP. In Myers-Briggs speak that means I am extroverted, I love big ideas and future thinking, I’m feeling-oriented, and I love options. The more options the better. So am I going to like a job where I work alone, doing small, repetitive tasks based on detailed data with a set schedule, every day?
Oh my gosh no.
I’m also not going to pack my suitcase in advance. (Have I mentioned that already?)
But someone is.
And once I learned about Myers-Briggs and realized not everyone thinks data analysis is the equivalent of mental sunburn–like oh-my-gosh some people love it as much as I love talking about the nature of consciousness–I found myself relaxing.
I don’t have to be like them and they don’t have to be like me.
The world really is full of amazing people, all parts of a big, beautiful whole.
I’m also a Highly Sensitive Person. Which means I startle easily and can’t handle loud noises. But I’m also really sensitive to frequencies which is why I’m an excellent Law of Attraction Guide. I honestly can tell when people are aligned. I can sense it.
I can even feel it because I’m a Highly Sensitive Person AND an empath. Which is like HSP+ because my emotions and your emotions... whose is whose? You can imagine the hijinks that ensued in my 20's navigating relationships before I learned energetic boundaries.
And my love language is Words of Affirmation. So if you say something nice or make me laugh, I’m putty in your hands. Unless your intentions are not good. Because you know I can feel them.
Oh, and come to find out ENFPs are often totally into the spiritual realms. So you can say I’m destined to be sitting here right now talking about big ideas of consciousness and change with you.
We pick who we want to be before we are born you know.
How about you?
How do you recharge, absorb data, make decisions, and feel loved?
What else can you tell me about you? I want to know!
If you want to manifest anything the answer is simple:
Breathe in its essence.
Breathe is more than just the air we need to live — it's our soul. When we breathe we are literally breathing in spirit, allowing the Source of All That Is to fill us. In a moment of conscious in-breath we become more clear, more aligned, and more sure of our purpose than before.
Try it. Breathe in.
We become more blended with our inner being. We become more aware, consciously, of our soul.
How does this apply to regular day-to-day manifestation?
How do we align with money, health, and great relationships by simply breathing?
It goes back to the essence of things.
Money, health, and great relationships are the result of what? They are the result of allowing the very things the Universe is made of: Joy, Love, and an unending sense of excited, eternal, creative, empowered FREEDOM.
The freedom to be able to do what we feel called to do when we feel called to do it (money).
The freedom to express our unbounded love fully and completely (relationships).
The freedom to enjoy this physical time-space reality fully (health).
The details of life can be very enticing. And when that word is used in a positive way it means they are interesting, uplifting, and calling to us. "Yes! I am in agreement with You. The big you that is aligned with your soul, your calling, and YOUR Universal essence."
That particular automobile or type of house or location to work, live, or visit. That particular career or detail or relationship status that sparks you up.
Let it light you on fire with joy.
Let it brighten you and your day illuminating everything around you through its specific glee.
"Yes! I want this!"
But as soon as that detail feels uncomfortable or stifling or dipped in fear (if it ever does) pull back and breathe in the essence again.
"I want this career because it feels good. I want to feel good. I want to feel joy and love and light. I want to feel illuminated. Lit from within by the amazing power of All That Is."
"I want to breathe in alignment with myself."
It's like walking through a flower garden.
The moment you enter its space you breathe. You may even tilt your head back and smile. And then something catches your eye. A flower over there you've never seen before. You eagerly go over and inspect it. You breathe IT in. And then you realize its fragrance is not pleasing to you.
Do you force yourself to stay there forever only looking at that flower because you picked it first?
Of course not.
You lift your head and look around. You breathe again the combination of the garden until another flower calls to you and you go there. And again. And again. Enjoying the process until you find yourself, arms full of flowers (the ones you indeed want to plant in your own backyard).
This is life.
Something interests you about someone.
You go on a date.
You realize on the date that they are not someone you want to continue seeing.
Don't stay there in the corner. Lift your head again and breathe in the essence of partnership. Imagine yourself filling up with the concept of love and right partnership and ease.
Enjoy the garden of opportunity.
And then, in one moment of allowing, another flower calls to you. Something about it is interesting.
You go to inspect.
And on and on. Gaining clarity about what you like and about what you don't like.
"These flowers are beautiful but as I think about it they won't look good against the color of my deck."
"These flowers are the right color but they won't be tall enough to reach beyond my planter box the way that I like."
"These flowers need more sun than I currently have in that place."
There are many reasons we might realize a relationship, a career, or an opportunity are not exactly in alignment.
And, perhaps the most often overlooked component of all:
"Based on who I already have in my life that I love and want to keep, these flowers are not in the Highest Good of all of us."
If you are already in a relationship, or have kids, or care for extended family, or are in any close group of relationships you care deeply about that manifestation will affect, breathe in the essence so that ALL align with it and harmony will appear.
The process of buying flowers is often a joyful one. You know you want beauty surrounding you. You know it is completely possible to have it. You know you have ultimate choice over what it turns out to be.
To a degree.
Because sometimes the flower won't thrive, or a squirrel will get it, or you'll forget to water.
But that's OK. That's life in the garden, and you forgive yourself.
Because sometimes tulips will bloom where you didn't even know they were planted.
It's all so AMAZING.
How do they even do it? Just a little water and look! They grow!
It's the same with you.
Your soul manifested on earth to garden a life.
Are you standing in the corner frowning over an insect you wish were not there?
Are you trapped in a corner smelling flowers that don't please you only because you are so busy complaining you have forgotten to walk away?
Do you realize that there are flowers you've never seen before, out there, waiting to delight you?
The essence of life is breath. The art of manifestation is aligning with the essence of what you want.
There is not one person on the Earth who did not choose to be here. Earth is an opt-in place, and every soul decided YES. YES, I WANT TO GO.
This is the mystery of our lives.
In broad terms we are here to have fun. Something called to us about this place.
It could be something else or all of the above but the Deep Truth is: you came here on purpose and WITH purpose.
Why did you choose your family? Your country of origin? Your circumstances?
The real truth?
You may never fully know.
But if you want to know as much as you can, open your intuition and receive.
My Quero Apache auntie, Maria Yraceburu, gave me the most beautiful image for personal growth year ago. She told me that life is a spiral.
Think about a spiral. Picture one in front of you or draw one on a piece of paper. Trace it with your finger.
You will notice that sometimes your finger seems to be going backwards or downwards. Sometimes your finger seems to be going forwards or upwards.
But no matter what your finger is doing in each moment the spiral itself is always, always going up and expanding.
That is life.
Sometimes you have a huge epiphany only to need down time to process it. Sometimes you make a big change in your life only to need a break. Sometimes you have had a break for a while and then you... you get the point?
Inner, outer, inner, outer... we work in the outside world and process it in our inner world. We get information or the urge to change from our inner world and we process it in our outer world.
So if you are wanting to make change in your life...
...if you want a better relationship with your kids, or to get back into shape, or to increase the feeling of partnership with your partner and you feel like you are going backwards remember the spiral.
You are not supposed to have a life without any conflict or challenge. That is no life at all. But it is what you do with that conflict and challenge that creates the life you want.
"Gosh, this sucks, what have I learned about what I prefer?"
"Wow, I'm ready to be over this depressed feeling. How can I reach for a better thought or a better today?"
"Hey! Things are awesome!!! I love my life! I'm going to try this new idea out... whoa, OK, guess that wasn't exactly what I had in mind... now what, how can I improve upon my idea?"
Be easy on yourself.
Be kind to you.
And remember...sometimes a cycle it may feel like it will last forever. But just as kids grow up, just as seasons change, you, too, cycle. And the experiences you are having are always bring your soul up.
In 2013 I took a class called The Power of Decision.
It changed my life.
It was based on a book The Power of Decision by Dr. Raymond Charles Barker. A Science of Mind leader, Dr. Barker was from New York City and he pulled no punches.
"I will show you that indecision is actually a decision. It is a decision to fail."
What?! Hold on a minute, the book has barely begun and you hit me with this? Can we ease into it a little bit?
And so it went. Powerful, short sentence after powerful short sentence drilling into you the knowledge, and the power, and even the dreadful failures, of your own decision-making.
No whining allowed. No excuses, either.
Dr. Barker gives examples of those who decide and of those who do not and he writes, without shyness or apology, about how he avoids people who just don't take their lives into their own hands.
"I cannot help anyone unless he has made up his mind..."
But, but, but... you're a Reverend, aren't you supposed to be there for everyone? Not when he has decided his time is valuable and he will not waste it. Ouch.
I loved it.
But while the entire book was fabulous what really struck me was his message about children.
"Children are afraid of making mistakes because of their strong emotional need to please their parents."
(And Indecisive adults are still worried about displeasing someone.)
It had never occurred to me before: children are not always taught to be good decision makers.
But how do you do this? How do you teach them to be good at making decisions?
His answer is simple: tell them they are good at making decisions.
So if a child asks: "Where should I put my wet towel?" You could say: "If you were alone in the house, and no one was here to help you, where would you put it?"
And they may say: "On the side of the tub."
And then you have to stop yourself from correcting them because you might really want it hung up on the hook. But maybe that's harder than you thought because they are much shorter than you. And honestly, it was a darn good decision to put it on the side of the tub because the answer was not "on the couch" or "in my bedroom" or "here, you take it".
So yes. Yes. That was a good decision. That would satisfy the requirements of keeping the house safe from a wet towel. Thank you. You make good decisions.
If you keep this up, if you keep telling them they make good decisions, they will bloom right before your eyes into the adults you hope they will be. Ones who make good decisions.
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This is a very real issue at this time. Never before in all of human history has there been so much "internet" connecting us with information, energy, and ideas.
In this time, the vast amount of knowledge being passed back and forth requires an equally honed intent. By this we mean:
You gotta know what you want to know.
Before you set foot into the world of the internet be it social media, the news, or a direct website, ask yourself, "Why am I visiting this place?"
Some example intent might be:
But the idea here is: never make yourself wrong for what you want or need. Simply be aware of what you are using the internet FROM and you will understand what you are receiving from it.
If you go to the internet to complain, you will attract more instances of complaining. It is what you will see, and even participate in.
If you go to the internet to stave off boredom, you may find yourself inexplicably unfulfilled when you leave the internet experience and try to do something else.
Conversely, if you go to the internet looking for things that uplift you because you want to feel uplifted, you will find – even one in a million – the exact story or post or meme you need to pull you up and out into a broader, more connected version of your human self at that time.
It's all in what you seek.
And it's all in being honest about where you are and what you are about at that given time.
If you want to stay informed of the news but you do not know how to do it and stay balanced and happy ask yourself: why do I need to see the news? If it is to stay abreast of important events then set a new intent:
I want to feel as informed as is in my highest good while remaining as happy as I possibly can be so that I can be a light and a beacon in this world for myself and others.
Or whatever intent works for you.
Notice we mention "highest good" and we mention the WHY. Both important parts of an intent statement that will bring you the best, better, and bestest. ;)
More than you imagine.
Above all else, never, wherever possible, fault someone for where they are. The biggest challenge people face (energetically speaking) in social media is pushing. Pushing against an idea. Pushing against an opinion. Pushing against an anger.
Pushing, pushing, pushing.
All of that pushing causes stress and strain and disconnects you from who YOU truly are. Love. Light. Beauty of soul beyond anything you have ever seen or heard.
There is a belief in the greater mass consciousness at this time that we must stamp out the anger and oppression that exists. But while it is never a happy time to be in anger or to be oppressed it is equally unhappy to stamp.
It is much more powerful – and at times seemingly more difficult – to continue to be open-hearted, allowing, and above all else, kind.
But how do we do this when social media is full of challenge?
Have you set your intent before you entered the world of social media? Every time?
Try it and see.
And you may find, that when you set your intent to complain, or to stave off the boredom or uncomfortable feeling of the present moment, that those may not be in alignment with you after all, and that is the first step towards healing the world, through healing yourself.
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