My top relationship tool – the one that yields amazing results year in and year out, day in and day out, even with close-quarters living like homeschooling a family of five, is only three adjectives long.
If you are having ongoing problems with someone, what are the top three adjectives that come to mind when you think about them?
If all three adjectives aren't positive (and chances are if you are having problems they aren't) then pick new ones. Pick new ones and then use those in your mind when that person is standing in front of you. Use them when that person is nowhere to be seen except passing through your mind. Any time that person is in your consciousness think of those adjectives and watch things change. And here is why:
The biggest rule of living in a vibrational Universe is since like attracts like...
You get what you expect.
Expectation is powerful. It's a "done deal". It's a solid foot on the ground that won't budge. Imagine what would happen if you said you wanted a fantastic income that was created in a way that made you super happy and you expected it. Expected it like you expect the meal you ordered at a restaurant to show up.
Or you said, "I will now meet my soul-mate-life-partner and you expected it. Expected it like you expect that chair to hold you up when you bend your legs with abandon to sit on it. Whoah. Life-altering. A game-changer. Powerful.
That's what your mind-adjectives are doing with your relationships.
So what adjectives should you choose?
Anything that feels good to you.
The list is endless.
Get out a thesaurus (or Google one) and have fun coming up with new ones. Pay attention to the adjectives you see in your life and make note of them. Ask for clarity about which ones are best and see what comes to you.
And if you can't think of one, get creative.
This past week I was spitting-mad at someone. I haven't been that mad in I can't remember when. There was no way I could think of three positive adjectives on my own. I was so far down the negative spiral I couldn't find my own light. There I was, dangling in the dark, held on by a thread of Law of Attraction practice and training. Slowly, slowly, I reached up with one hand to find a ledge. I prayed for help.
On the mantle. A bowl of Angel Cards [Amazon link]. Those are adjectives. I can pick three of those and use them. I don't even have to use my brain to choose. Which is good, since my brain is just a red blazing haze. So I did what I do with cards: I breathed, set my intent, closed my eyes, and felt them in piles and one-by-one until my hand buzzed.
"My intent is to pick three adjective to think about regarding [this person] that is in my highest good and the highest good of all involved."
(Which means it's good for them too.)
The adjectives that showed up were unique. Not ones I would have thought of myself. Each one brought me some insight into how I could feel better and also what was going on with the other person. The adjectives were both illuminating and positive.
It was a prayer doubly answered.
I was surprised when the relationship found its way out of that dark spiral so quickly, so easily, and so lovingly. It was a major transformation in just a few short steps that day. Some texting. Some questions. Some allowing. But there is no surprise really.
Anytime you are willing to meet someone at the highest vibe possible miracles occur. Only they aren't miracles anymore, they are just... natural.
Your adjectives take you there.