My top relationship tool – the one that yields amazing results year in and year out, day in and day out, even with close-quarters living like homeschooling a family of five, is only three adjectives long.
I can't stop thinking about the six types of love the ancient Greeks had. It could be because I'm such a happy-go-lucky person that any excuse to think about love lights me up.
But it's more than that.
It's about our culture and how we let ourselves express ourselves. It's about increasing the language around love (and feelings like it) so we can identify more clearly what a person means to us – and how to know where they fit into our lives so we can stop feeling hurt, start feeling appreciation, and acknowledge the rich tapestry of life around us.
I just said "tapestry". This must be serious.
So here they are:
Do you see all the love?
When I read about this years ago the Sagittarius, ENFP, bouncy person in me squealed at the idea of ludic love. It wasn't just me! There IS love flowing around the Denny's at 1:00am after we got done with our theatre show.
But then I also felt the penny drop at seeing eros love in its own category. Had I ever confused that type of love with something else? Or something else with that type of love? Um. Yes.
Looking through the list I felt comfort in pragma, the idea that love was meant to age, change, and grow more... married.
And then I started to see the tapestry of my life rewoven again with this new clarity of love and it was.... beautiful. Perfect. My mistakes. My lost loves. My breakups. My celebrations. My marriage. My kids. My everything.
So I am sharing this with you so that you, two, can re-weave your life then, your life now, and your life to come with all the layers and beauty of love.
And, yes, I know, I said "tapestry" twice. It really is serious. :)
Agape love you!
P.S. I read about the six types of love in this article. It's really fantastic. Check it out.
If you are in a relationship that totally sucks right now... this one is for you.
Are you mad, fed up, or frustrated? Are you trying to remember why you got with this person in the first place?
Maybe they are not a spouse or love partner.
They could be your family member. Maybe even your kid. Or perhaps they are your boss and that new job just hasn't come through yet to rescue you. What I'm going to suggest will work in those types of relationships, too.
Are you ready for the secret?