ReallyGoodLife
  • Home
  • Blog
  • About
  • Sessions

Two questions to ask when you feel bad for not getting things done.

5/26/2020

 

Read More

Need relief? Here's how to start getting the best kind.

4/22/2020

 

Read More

Create a separate text thread for the people you live with to reduce nagging and run a better house

12/8/2017

 

Read More

Tell your kids they make good decisions

5/6/2017

 

Read More

When your child tells you they want something you think is impossible, how do you respond?

10/9/2014

 
Picture
This is one of the most profound parenting principles there is:

Read More

And then I stopped stressing out planning the family calendar

5/14/2014

 
Picture
This world is full of options.  That's a blessing.  But some days it doesn't feel like one.

Play dates.  Classes.  Social groups.  Outings.  Family gatherings.  So many things to do.

But how?
Are you feeling stressed out by all of the options? Yes, choices are a blessing but when it's play dates, classes, social groups, outings, family gatherings, sports...

How do you eliminate the planning stress?

When I feel put upon, stressed out, or cornered, I have to remember: What do /I/ want?

That changes everything.

Instead of feeling like the world is throwing boulders at me that I have to catch or duck lest I get pummeled, instead I remember: I get to choose.

And not only that: "Look at how many amazing choice I have!"

From there the rest is easy.  That's because I've practiced listening to my intuition, and my kids have, too.  Intuition is your soul, your Big Guidance, and it never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever steers you wrong. 

No competition.
No conflict.
No fuss.
It even does scheduling.

I have a 6 month old baby, a 10 year old a daughter and a 6 year old daughter.  I have a husband who works from home.  I have a big summer ahead of me.  What do I want?

Ease, of course.
Fun, oh heck-yes.  
Flow...

...YES.

I want to be easy.  I want it to be in our Highest Good.  And I want it to be awesome.

So now, from this perspective, nothing seems stressful.  Possible sleepover?  Trip to Great America?  Maybe. If we want.  If it is something our Higher Self says "ooooh!" to.

And if it is not?

There is no pushing.  No protecting myself (under the guise of protecting my kids).  No guilt for saying "no thank you" and no fear of missing out, doing it wrong, or screwing up.

It is just... perfect. As it is.  And as it is not.

So now: bring it.

An email box full of invitations? I can handle it.  My soul already knows what my summer looks like, and from that perspective, it is AWE-SOME.

How I write my to do list now that I have another baby

5/6/2014

 
Picture
I have another baby so that means it's time to get cracking on organizing my life differently.  By "differently" I mean "don't get all cranky because you can't get anything done".

Important Note: Don't let the word "baby" stop you parents of kids, tweens, or teens from reading this post.  This strategy works for parents with kids of all ages.  I just happen to have a baby right now, OK?

Now where was I?  Oh yes.

Take my To Do list.

(No, really, take it.  Ba-dum-CHISH!)

In the past, it was great to have a running To Do List.  It was all I needed.  Skim the list, pick something to do, do it, check it off.  It was so simple.

But then I had a baby.

Suddenly that To Do list was a huge, looming pile of "Can't Get Done's" - a shadow of shame and frustration hanging over me, weighing me down.  Nursing, changing diapers, rocking, holding a baby.... all great times when my body was busy while my mind was free to watch the clock tick, the dishes pile up, the emails to go unanswered, my hair to grow split ends, the thank you cards to be unthanked...

I felt like I couldn't get anything done.  I got frustrated when I was interrupted - again.  It was stressful.

So I started playing with how to organize my time.  First I tried creating a smaller, daily To Do list from my main one.  That seemed like a great idea. I could just pick the top three to five things I would, (really, truly, would) do that day that were critical.

Except it didn't work.

Now I had a smaller, but even more pressing To Do list looming over my head throughout the day as I changed diapers, rocked, held, soothed... and I felt even more stressed out because it was a shorter list and I wasn't even able to get thatdone right away.

Boo hiss.

After years of research and trial and error I have found the To Do list system that works for me - particularly when I have a baby or a toddler.  You know, one of those constant-interuptus little people who, bless their hearts, might not take a 2 hour nap that day when you need it.

My system is all about flow.

It's main design is not necessarily to get things done, but to keep me from feeling stressed out.  Which, ironically, means I end up getting more things done.  (Tricky, but true.)

Instead of assuming I have complete control over time, my To Do list works in a world where I don't have to.  (You mean I don't have to control time?  No!  Yay!)

I will still pick the top three to five things that I really want or need to get done that day and put them down on paper, but instead of just making a list, I categorize them into time opportunities.  Or, because I still have a daily paper organizer (in addition to my online calendar) I will pencil in the To Do near the part of the day in which they can - or are most likely to - get done.

For example:

What can I do while the baby is awake?
- Folding laundry. (He loves to play with the socks on the bed.)
- Light cooking. (He loves to be held and I am a one-handed wonder at the stove.)

What requires babysitting so I can leave the house?
- Haircut
- Dentist

What requires the baby to be home with me but occupied or asleep and I am OK to be interrupted?
- Digging out the garage
- Taking a shower

What requires the baby to be occupied or asleep at home with someone who can tend the baby if he wakes or needs something so I am uninterrupted?
- Email to a client

With this new framework I feel more flexible and generous about getting my own needs met.

Meditation?
I can actually do that while the baby is in the carrier and I'm standing outside.

Writing a blog post?
This good for my soul and my creativity but I don't need to write every day.  How often?  Weekly would be great.  If I am feeling well rested and inspired, I am totally happy to write in the morning - and get interrupted to change a diaper like just now - but only when the older kids are in bed and it's just the baby and me.  Right now at 5 months old he's still very quiet. ;)

Knowing this means I can look forward to one morning when it lines up.  Because it does.  I don't have to push it.

With this type of To Do list I can:
  • Intuit and decide what really matters most each day.
  • Organize it on paper (and more importantly in my mind) where it flows naturally with my kid-full life.
  • See more clearly when I need help from my husband or older kids - and ask for it.
  • Look forward to the times when I will be able to do what I want to do, which means I get to stay present with my baby, my family, my energy, and my joy.  

Once I stop fighting reality or stressing out, it all flows.

That feels fantastic.

And, incidentally, so does getting stuff done. :)

Who has the highest vibration in the room? A parenting tool.

4/24/2014

 
Picture
Is more than one person in the room cranky pants at the same time?

Read More

"Mommy, why are people mean?"

4/14/2014

 
Picture
How do you answer when you are reading Cinderella and your little one asks, "Mommy, why are Cinderella's step-sisters so mean?"

Read More

Outings with kids are easier once you set your intent

4/9/2014

 
Picture
If you try this little technique (it only takes a few minutes, max) it will make your outings with kids - of any age - easier, or more relaxing, or more fun, or more in the flow than ever before.

Read More
<<Previous

    Really Good
    ​Life...With Kids

    OHMYGOSH let's be happier while raising kids and also watch our kids thrive more and did I mention feeling better?

    Picture

    Categories

    All
    Body
    Book Reviews
    Clutter
    Communication
    Community
    Complaint-Free World
    Discipline
    Education
    Empath
    ENFP
    Getting Along
    Gratitude
    Health
    Highly Sensitive Person
    Homeschooling
    HSP
    Intent
    Law Of Attraction
    Law Of Attraction Tools
    LOA In Action
    LOA Tool
    Love Language
    Money
    Myers Briggs
    Myers-Briggs
    New Year
    Organization
    Outings
    Parenting
    Parenting Tool
    Personal Growth
    Personality Tests
    Prosperity
    Relationships
    Self
    Shamanism
    Sleep
    Spiritual Growth
    Spirituality
    Technology
    Toddlers
    Unschooling
    Video
    Weight Loss

    RSS Feed

Picture
​Copyright 2005-2021 ReallyGoodLife.com
  • Home
  • Blog
  • About
  • Sessions