What is one thing you can do to help a new big dream come true?
Stop talking about it. :)
This has really helped me manifest some major things. And it has helped others too, who once were stuck.
But as always: do what YOU are inspired to do.
Sometimes you have to tell people about your dream for some reason. Like I did. That's OK if they don't support your vision. Now you know what to do to get back on track.
Hi! I did it! I snuck down into my office again. :) A client asked me about soul mate manifestation tips and I thought, Hey, this is something a lot of people would love to know. Maybe I'll make a video about it!
There are a lot of things that can be said about the topic. This is a great starter to that.
In this quick video I tell you:
One more sneaky video! Ok, this video is not a secret but I did sneak down to my office to record it while my family was occupied. So here it is: Tada! How to do a mind map. Someone was asking about it this week and I said I would give them instructions. More people asked. Then I decided to do a video. Then I did a video and realized I had already written a blog post about how to do a mind map. Huh. But maybe someone would prefer video instructions so I'm posting this video anyway.
If you have a big dream that feels too big to manifest, do a mind map.
You may find that the dream is really right on track and you only have a few (or one) small adjustments to make.
Hope it helps!
So.... I had a really big energetic shift and it felt WONDERFUL. And then it felt like "aaaaaarg" and "waaaaaaa" because all of a sudden things in my life started falling apart. Like miscommunications and uncomfortable relationship surprises. What the heck?
Then I remembered: when you shift everything shifts.
So how did I move through it?
I talk about that in this video. I tell you about a tool you can use to help you in the in-between time. And I also reveal why my messy hair sticking up all over the place was a good thing. True story.
I was asked about how to line up with the energy, idea, and actualization of the body you want. I've used Law of Attraction tools to lose weight twice. (I gained weight years later when I had my third baby, but that's another story.)
My favorite part about using Law of Attraction for weight loss is that once you maneuver your mind into alignment the actions you take are easy. They are inspired. They FEEL GOOD. That means no standing there staring at the donut wishing you could eat it while fighting the urge. No HAVING to go to the gym.
(I don't know about you but I am so bad at disciplined action. Like, terrible.)
So here's an intro! Or rather, here is some stream of consciousness talking about this topic. I should probably make an outline. I'm thinking I'll go into more details about these steps and how to apply them later. But if I don't and you want to hurry me along, or you have a specific question you want me to video about, let me know. Or you can get 1-1 insight and help just for you if you like.
If you want to manifest anything the answer is simple:
Breathe in its essence.
Breathe is more than just the air we need to live — it's our soul. When we breathe we are literally breathing in spirit, allowing the Source of All That Is to fill us. In a moment of conscious in-breath we become more clear, more aligned, and more sure of our purpose than before.
Try it. Breathe in.
We become more blended with our inner being. We become more aware, consciously, of our soul.
How does this apply to regular day-to-day manifestation?
How do we align with money, health, and great relationships by simply breathing?
It goes back to the essence of things.
Money, health, and great relationships are the result of what? They are the result of allowing the very things the Universe is made of: Joy, Love, and an unending sense of excited, eternal, creative, empowered FREEDOM.
The freedom to be able to do what we feel called to do when we feel called to do it (money).
The freedom to express our unbounded love fully and completely (relationships).
The freedom to enjoy this physical time-space reality fully (health).
The details of life can be very enticing. And when that word is used in a positive way it means they are interesting, uplifting, and calling to us. "Yes! I am in agreement with You. The big you that is aligned with your soul, your calling, and YOUR Universal essence."
That particular automobile or type of house or location to work, live, or visit. That particular career or detail or relationship status that sparks you up.
Let it light you on fire with joy.
Let it brighten you and your day illuminating everything around you through its specific glee.
"Yes! I want this!"
But as soon as that detail feels uncomfortable or stifling or dipped in fear (if it ever does) pull back and breathe in the essence again.
"I want this career because it feels good. I want to feel good. I want to feel joy and love and light. I want to feel illuminated. Lit from within by the amazing power of All That Is."
"I want to breathe in alignment with myself."
It's like walking through a flower garden.
The moment you enter its space you breathe. You may even tilt your head back and smile. And then something catches your eye. A flower over there you've never seen before. You eagerly go over and inspect it. You breathe IT in. And then you realize its fragrance is not pleasing to you.
Do you force yourself to stay there forever only looking at that flower because you picked it first?
Of course not.
You lift your head and look around. You breathe again the combination of the garden until another flower calls to you and you go there. And again. And again. Enjoying the process until you find yourself, arms full of flowers (the ones you indeed want to plant in your own backyard).
This is life.
Something interests you about someone.
You go on a date.
You realize on the date that they are not someone you want to continue seeing.
Don't stay there in the corner. Lift your head again and breathe in the essence of partnership. Imagine yourself filling up with the concept of love and right partnership and ease.
Enjoy the garden of opportunity.
And then, in one moment of allowing, another flower calls to you. Something about it is interesting.
You go to inspect.
And on and on. Gaining clarity about what you like and about what you don't like.
"These flowers are beautiful but as I think about it they won't look good against the color of my deck."
"These flowers are the right color but they won't be tall enough to reach beyond my planter box the way that I like."
"These flowers need more sun than I currently have in that place."
There are many reasons we might realize a relationship, a career, or an opportunity are not exactly in alignment.
And, perhaps the most often overlooked component of all:
"Based on who I already have in my life that I love and want to keep, these flowers are not in the Highest Good of all of us."
If you are already in a relationship, or have kids, or care for extended family, or are in any close group of relationships you care deeply about that manifestation will affect, breathe in the essence so that ALL align with it and harmony will appear.
The process of buying flowers is often a joyful one. You know you want beauty surrounding you. You know it is completely possible to have it. You know you have ultimate choice over what it turns out to be.
To a degree.
Because sometimes the flower won't thrive, or a squirrel will get it, or you'll forget to water.
But that's OK. That's life in the garden, and you forgive yourself.
Because sometimes tulips will bloom where you didn't even know they were planted.
It's all so AMAZING.
How do they even do it? Just a little water and look! They grow!
It's the same with you.
Your soul manifested on earth to garden a life.
Are you standing in the corner frowning over an insect you wish were not there?
Are you trapped in a corner smelling flowers that don't please you only because you are so busy complaining you have forgotten to walk away?
Do you realize that there are flowers you've never seen before, out there, waiting to delight you?
The essence of life is breath. The art of manifestation is aligning with the essence of what you want.
Feeling antsy? Don't sabotage yourself. Watch this live-recorded video for tips to sidestep the drama and ease into a new future. - Alora
My top relationship tool – the one that yields amazing results year in and year out, day in and day out, even with close-quarters living like homeschooling a family of five, is only three adjectives long.
This is a very real issue at this time. Never before in all of human history has there been so much "internet" connecting us with information, energy, and ideas.
In this time, the vast amount of knowledge being passed back and forth requires an equally honed intent. By this we mean:
You gotta know what you want to know.
Before you set foot into the world of the internet be it social media, the news, or a direct website, ask yourself, "Why am I visiting this place?"
Some example intent might be:
But the idea here is: never make yourself wrong for what you want or need. Simply be aware of what you are using the internet FROM and you will understand what you are receiving from it.
If you go to the internet to complain, you will attract more instances of complaining. It is what you will see, and even participate in.
If you go to the internet to stave off boredom, you may find yourself inexplicably unfulfilled when you leave the internet experience and try to do something else.
Conversely, if you go to the internet looking for things that uplift you because you want to feel uplifted, you will find – even one in a million – the exact story or post or meme you need to pull you up and out into a broader, more connected version of your human self at that time.
It's all in what you seek.
And it's all in being honest about where you are and what you are about at that given time.
If you want to stay informed of the news but you do not know how to do it and stay balanced and happy ask yourself: why do I need to see the news? If it is to stay abreast of important events then set a new intent:
I want to feel as informed as is in my highest good while remaining as happy as I possibly can be so that I can be a light and a beacon in this world for myself and others.
Or whatever intent works for you.
Notice we mention "highest good" and we mention the WHY. Both important parts of an intent statement that will bring you the best, better, and bestest. ;)
More than you imagine.
Above all else, never, wherever possible, fault someone for where they are. The biggest challenge people face (energetically speaking) in social media is pushing. Pushing against an idea. Pushing against an opinion. Pushing against an anger.
Pushing, pushing, pushing.
All of that pushing causes stress and strain and disconnects you from who YOU truly are. Love. Light. Beauty of soul beyond anything you have ever seen or heard.
There is a belief in the greater mass consciousness at this time that we must stamp out the anger and oppression that exists. But while it is never a happy time to be in anger or to be oppressed it is equally unhappy to stamp.
It is much more powerful – and at times seemingly more difficult – to continue to be open-hearted, allowing, and above all else, kind.
But how do we do this when social media is full of challenge?
Have you set your intent before you entered the world of social media? Every time?
Try it and see.
And you may find, that when you set your intent to complain, or to stave off the boredom or uncomfortable feeling of the present moment, that those may not be in alignment with you after all, and that is the first step towards healing the world, through healing yourself.
Alora and the Guides
I have a lot of information I offer. A lot. A lot lot lot. So recently while I was pondering life in a sacred space (getting ready for the day in the bathroom) I asked myself: "How do I boil this down? How do I give you the essence of what I teach, what I do, and how I live in an easily digestible way?"
So I boiled. And.... voila! Here is it. A recipe for life.
So, if you are having trouble, visit this checklist to see where you need to tweak things. Remember, a great soup happens when all the flavors of the dish work in harmony. Yum.
My 7 Ingredient Soup for Living A ReallyGoodLife:
Some might call this "don't be co-dependent" but I think of it as a two-parter. You have the outer part which is you and other people. Don't give your power away to them (be co-dependent). But then what? That's the inner part. Remember you ARE Source. Connect to yourself. Connect to Source. Be inner-connected. Hooking up with Source means an endless supply of love, rejuvenation and acceptance. You can't not be something. Instead of trying not to be co-defendant be self-contained instead.
Seek Highest-Good Relief
This is the main reason why Positive Thinking or Law of Attraction or Success Mindset stuff doesn't work for many people. You can't just seek joy when you feel terrible. You need to seek relief first. But if you haven't decided to be happy no matter what, chances are your relief may be in the form of a short-term fix that has long-term negative effects. (Eat the whole cake, anyone? Or send that email you should have deleted instead? Or buy that thing? Or all those things?) Intend highest-good relief instead. When you learn to discern which choices are positive relief and which are destructive relief your entire life changes because now EVERYTHING is life-affirming. Even binging on Netflix. With a whole cake. In front of a new TV. But only if it feels aligned, yo.
Share From Solution
As much as you are able (because you will fail at this) don't complain. I'm serious. No more complaining. Not out loud. Not on Facebook. Not on email. Not anywhere. Your brain is a capitalist. It makes more of what is sold. If you complain a lot your brain makes more complaints. If you stop complaining out loud your brain makes less complaints and starts making more of what you are communicating instead. That's just good business. And since what you focus on becomes your life, when you stop complaining your life will positively shift into a life that requires no complaints. That doesn't mean you can't talk about what is bothering you, but when you do talk about it, you speak from a Solution Mindset. Like this. "Honey, when you leave your shoes in the middle of the room I trip on them at night. Would you be willing to put them in the corner instead?" If you can't think of a possible solution ("Ug! It's raining again!") then it's a straight-up complaint which needs to say in your head. Now I said you would fail at this. How can this be? I'm supposed to be a Positive Thinker (with capital letters and everything). But I tell you this because you will. And it's OK. Don't be upset with yourself. Just laugh and do your best. Because complaining about your complaining? That's so meta.
Do The Work
This one is mentionrd here in the middle but maybe it should be at the top. With blinking arrows. You have to do the work. Working with your thoughts is like working with your muscles. Just like you don't go to the gym once and wake up buff you won't wake up with a completely changed life after reading one article either. (Or will you? OoOOooOOoOh!) And just like when you let your gym membership lapse and your muscles go soft, the same process happens here. The good news is it only takes 15 minutes a day of doing SOMETHING to build these new habits of thought and you don't even have to put on work-out clothes or sweat. Your 15 minutes could be meditation, gratitude lists, scripting... It could be as simple as saying "I want to think thoughts that feel good" and then doodling on a napkin. Something. Every day.
Make More Choices
Making more choices could be a part of "Do The Work" but it's so important I am making it its own key ingredient. Your brain is like a GPS (or a Map App for you youngsters). It goes where you program it. If you don't program it it goes where it's used to going. And because we live in a vibrational world the end result is always a FEELING. (Got a new car? A job? A date? How does it feel? Got an email? A shopping errand? A relationship talk? How does it feel?) For example, if you are used to feeling icky when you go into work, then you will usually feel icky when you go into work. And you may have a lot of reasons why you feel icky. And they may be all valid. But until you DECIDE to feel good when you go into work you won't. Not consistently. Which is why making more choices is key to changing your life. Starting with the choice to feel good is the best one yet. Deciding to be happy no matter what is a prerequisite for all my clients because until you decide this no one can help. Getting up? Decide how you want to feel. Going on a trip? Decide how you want to feel. Going to answer the phone? Decide how you want to feel. Decide. You may not always get what you decide, but you will see massive change - positive, wanted change - in your life with this. I have decided.
Let your jaw drop. Be in awe. Be grateful. Appreciate. Did you know – appreciation is the closet vibration to Source. Not love. Appreciation. But then, what is love if not appreciation? What you appreciate you vibrate and what you vibrate you attract. You are what you appreciate. And if you can't appreciate? You are what you complain about. Eek!
Keep Your Geek
This is like "love yourself" only instead of an image of roses and candles and soft music it's like BAM! Full color out there. It took me having three kids and getting this old to realize: WE ARE BORN GEEKS. You were born a geek. Now don't worry that I'm going to slap a Star Trek insignia on you. You don't have to be a Science Fiction fantastic or a role-player to be a geek. A geek is "a person who has excessive enthusiasm for and some expertise about a specialized subject or activity." And even if you have forgotten it, you were born enthusiastic. You don't just end up on the planet without having a lot of focused desire to be here. And since the purpose of life is having fun, you thought it would be fun. Which means you came pre-qualified as a geek. So even if you try to hide it, your geek is still in there, eager to get out.
What is your particular geek? Well, it could be anything. You could be a geek in:
I heard about a homeschooled kid who adored turtles. It's all he every wanted to talk about, think about, play about, learn about... and so his parents said "yes". I'm happy to report they never tried to keep him from turtles so that he could become well-rounded to their standards (i.e. washed out). Instead, he grew up to become one of the world's foremost turtle experts.
That doesn't mean a passion has to become a profession.
I know a guy who loves to read financial articles so he can understand finance. Why? Because he loves it. You don't know his name because he's not blogging about it. He's just doing it. He's a finance geek.
And you don't have to focus your geek on one thing. Me? I'm a multiple geek. I'm a total Personal Growth Geek. Even when I'm not working with clients or writing to you I'm thinking about it and reading about it and talking about it. But I'm also a Harry Potter geek. And, if you ask my friends, I'm probably a geek in other areas too. Or probably just a total geek.
There is a passion in you for something whether it's a subject (Art History) or a thing (turtles) or a topic (holistic healing) or an activity (drawing) and if you stop trying to hide it, make it socially acceptable, or even understand why you have it you will LOVE IT.
And love is appreciation.
And what you appreciate you get more of.
And since what you get more of is ultimately a feeling...
... your life will feel GREAT.
And what life feels great when it's poor, unhealthy, lonely, or sad? No life. No life feels great like that. Which is why great feelings are the key.
Welcome to TOTAL ABUNDANCE. :)