While you can find kid-friendly streams on Twitch such as this paleontologist, Twitch is NOT a kid-safe platform. In fact, Twitch prohibits use of the platform for under 13 year olds.

Any search or browse will bring up all sorts of cover-your-eye content. Twitch livestreams and replays are not - unless they specify it - geared towards PG content. It is VERY EASY to click to something that is not PG on Twitch.

In 2022, 41% of users were 24 and under. (And if you didn't know, the brain doesn't develop long term decision making capability until age 25 which is explains a lot.)

My point is this: if you have a stream you and your kid watch together, that's best. If you have a stream playing that they can't adjust or click around on, that should work.

Make sure you check it out first before you introduce it into your family.

That being said, if you find a great family friend teaching stream like that paleontologist, it's amazing content and a great experience to have live or on replay.

If you are looking for PG content that is all about dinosaurs from a Paleontologist who has a decade of field experience, publications, findings, and who is a wonderful and enthusiastic paleontologist who has a calm, positive demeanor, check out....

paleontologizing on Twitch
https://www.twitch.tv/paleontologizing

Yes, this is family friend content. 
Ages 8 and up is my guess for kids who are really into dinosaurs.

As of this post he streams just about every weekday for hours. He makes a living and funds his research from his Twitch subs but you can watch anytime for free.

​P.S.
If you are new to Twitch, read my post on Twitch safety!!!

Keep the fun alive while living together and getting things done.
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I'm a homeschooling mom of three with a husband who works a lot from home. As a result I've spend a lot of time and trial-and-error figuring how to live together almost continuously so that we all still like each other. What I've come to realize is this:

Don't bug the people you live with.

It's easier said than done sometimes. Dishes. Groceries. Garbage. Maintenance inside the house. Maintenance in the yard. If you have kids or animals or live-ins? Talk about even more maintenance. You get it. You know it.

Living together means working together.

This sounds like an obvious concept but I didn't know the extent of it before I got married. Maybe you didn't either.

After over 16 years of family life I'm convinced that not understanding the work-life balance inside the home is where so many families go wrong. It's where kids stop reaching out to their parents to chat. It's where spouses disappear into the garage or their friendships or their iPhone. It's where people roll their eyes and stop listening.

So what do you do? How do you get things done in the house and for the household (and have your kids, partner, roommates, whoever you live with also get things done) so that you still want to be together?

It boils down to three simple rules.

1. If it has to be said that red hot minute and someone else needs to do it, do what you have to do. Say it, yell it, repeat it. If someone is late and they have to let the dog out... use your words. Sometimes loud words. 

2. If it does not have to be said that red hot minute and you can say it in a way that keeps it fun, lighthearted, and positive, go ahead and say it if you want to. If you find that your comment about loading the dishwasher puts a damper on the dinner conversation, next time use rule #3.

3. Communicate non red-hot minute work issues through work channels. There are many choices.

• Make a family text thread.
  (If you text, no judgment from me. I love it.) Everyone puts the thread on silent so you all know you can text at midnight when you find shoes in the middle of the floor by tripping on them. You can remind folks to please put the shoes away on the thread. Silent threads are the modern equivalent of a bulletin.
• Have family meetings.
  Weekly, monthly, as often as you need to. Schedule a meeting and utilize non-violent communication strategies while you're there. Have a talking stick folks pass around so everyone gets to speak interrupted (only the one holding the stick can speak). Use whatever strategies you have to make the meeting a place where people get heard and solutions and positive consensus are the goal. Even with children as young as four. Don't underestimate them.
• Put it in writing.
  Lists of responsibilities, plans and goals for the month. Who does what. Put it in writing. White board. Huge sticky note. Online app. Whatever works.
• Text them while they are sitting there.
  If your live-in loved ones has a phone with them, sometimes the best way to communicate is just to text. "Do you have plans for making dinner tonight?" A text gives someone time to think about it and respond. Some people thing better in writing. They can finish that article they are reading before they reply. Thinkers can send Feelers a heart emoji and get a better-feeling reply. ;)

But what about general conversation?

It's always a good rule of them to ask someone if they are ready to have a conversation or answer a question. There they are, sitting there reading something. Ask them before you launch into your daily download or find out if they took out the garbage to the curb. "Is this a good time to talk about...?" They may say yes. They may say, "let me finish this chapter".

My point is: work is work and we all need a break from it. A mental break. An emotional break. A physical break. A safe break.

Allow your audience to get into "work mode" before you talk about work. Let them shift gears. Set aside time for it. Make a work-flow. And ask those you live with to give you the same courtesy.

Once you separate (when it’s a burden) the business of living together from actual life together the stress levels in your house and in those live-in relationships will decrease. The people at home–you included–will relax more without those unnecessary (and sometimes just downright unpleasant) interruptions.

What happens when you don't fear the interruptions?

You will play more together. Reach out to each other more. Enjoy each other’s company more.

You will love living together more even while things still get done.

​Most of the time. ;)

It's a commitment. Know before you go.
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I was so naive. First kid. First tooth lost. I thought, "I'll make it special!" I came up with an elaborate and somewhat expensive ritual and got stuck doing that somewhat expensive and elaborate ritual for two kids worth of teeth.

Then I had my third child and I changed it up. He was so much younger I could start fresh. I made it easier on myself. I'm happy. He's happy.

I'll pass on my learnings in case it helps you be happy too.

Here are my top tips for the Tooth Fairy time of life.

1. You get to decide if you want to do the Tooth Fairy at all.
It never occurred to me to start here. Did you know there are different tooth transitions all over the world? Some kids throw their teeth on the roof. So if you want to have a Tooth Fairy you can. Or you can have a roof ritual. Or a slipper thing. The choices are endless.

2. Pillows are optional.
If you do want to have the Tooth Fairy, you don't have to use the old put-it-under-your-pillow method. Why? Because it's easy to lose a tooth under a pillow and it's hard to sneak in at night and rummage under a pillow without waking up a child sometimes. Especially when the child has a gazillion stuffed animals on the bed and a maze of toys on the floor. Make it easy on yourself. Put the tooth in a bowl next to the bed. Or, even easier, leave it in a bowl outside the bedroom door. It doesn't have to be a bedtime-visiting Tooth Fairy. Again, you get to choose.

3. Manage expectations.
How much money does the Tooth Fairy leave? That is an easy expectation to manage. The answer usually is: whatever they left the first time. But if the Tooth Fairy leaves small gifts instead or in addition to money, what is small? If you have a child who will question dimensions and debate this concept endlessly, use a box. The tooth goes in a shoe box. The toy left cannot be bigger than the box. It has to fit in the box. That's how "small" the toy is. Problem solved. You can also use a smaller box.

4. Plan for vacations.
What happens if the tooth is lost while you are on vacation and your child is with caregivers? Plan ahead. Maybe the Tooth Fairy only visits when a parent is present. So the child knows to wait until you are back to do the tooth thing. Or maybe you have a stash of supplies ready (including the denomination of money needed) so that that Tooth Fairy can visit while you are gone. Regardless, plan ahead. Like if you are on a vacation with your child and they lose a tooth, does the Tooth Fairy visit the campground? You tell me. Or rather, you tell them. Each child is different and some are very intricate in their need for tradition. Some are more flexible. So once again, plan ahead.

5. Plan for lost teeth.
If the child swallows their tooth when it comes out, or it pops out down the drain, you know exactly what to do. Do you leave a note instead of the tooth. Be ready.

6. Keep track of the teeth.
Whether you keep the actual teeth or freeze them or not, keep track of which teeth and how many are out so you know how many are yet to be out. Maybe you will remember. I never remember. I think I will remember. I don't remember. And then I have no idea how many teeth are left when they ask me. For my last kid I bought a box that has spaces for each of his teeth so I know how many and which specific ones. But you can just make a note on your phone.

7. Set your alarm.
You put your kid to bed. They put their tooth wherever and however your family does the tooth thing. You know your job. Tooth Fairy! You get busy. You do dishes. You check Facebook. You go to bed. NO! You must remember to do the tooth thing. I am not kidding: set an alarm. Put a note on your pillow so you can't go to sleep without remembering. But if you are a busy parent (and you are busy because you are a parent) set yourself up for success by making sure you can't forget. Whatever you need to do to remember, do that.

8. Enjoy your whatever it is.
This tooth thing is a passing stage; it's great if you can enjoy it. Think about your child. Think about yourself. Find a path that fits you both and embrace it. Whatever it is.

Love,
The Tooth Fairy

This is not a post about fashion, it’s about becoming a mom and the things that happen to our lives because of it. 
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It’s been years since I haven’t used a mini backpack. The reason was purely practical: I’m so clumsy that when I bent over a regular purse would swing off my body and smash my toddler like a wrecking ball.

So I started wearing a bag on my back.

It’s been years since I’ve worn most of the jewelry I own. The reason was purely practical: I have such slow reflexes that my small children would grab that necklace before I could stop them. My engagement ring was a sharp hazard while dressing squirmy bodies.

So I started wearing just small hoop earrings and a plain band. 

It’s been years since I’ve regularly talked on the phone. The reason was purely practical: every time I got on the phone (no matter how occupied my children seemed to be) they would start yelling at each other or for me.

So I started only texting and emailing. 

As my youngest grows up and sprouts past his sixth birthday I feel simultaneously older and younger. It’s a strange pull of sensation and age. On the one hand I feel the wisdom of the years gather around me like a strength. On the other hand I feel my normal self unfold like a kid from the back of a coupe after a family road trip.

Where are we?

It took me two seasons of watching the new Doctor Who to realize I feel like the adventurous Doctor’s young 20-something companion but I look like her mother. 

How did I get here?

But that’s the thing with age, isn’t it? The secret they can’t share with you until you are there: we are all our younger selves under all these kids and wrinkles. Necessity might change our purses or hide our jewelry in a drawer for a time. Responsibility might put that phone down for a while. But if you let time wind its curved journey we will eventually bend back into ourselves.

And there we are.