What is your goal of parenting? Is it to raise successful children?
What does that mean?
How do you define success?
Does that word bring up the trappings of life like career, finances, and home?
What if, instead, our definition of success was not a thing but a state of being. What if it was happiness? Not the surface everything-looks-fine-cookie-cutter happiness we might see in magazines. But real happiness. The kind that lights up a person from the inside and shines out onto the world just by its very being.
Most parenting books talk about how to manage your children. How to get them to do something. Behave. Homework. Make their beds.
But that's all about control.
What about the opposite?
What about, instead of trying to control them, squishing them into a shape we find pleasing, we take the time to find out what shape they already are – the shape of their soul they were born with – and work to allow them to continue to be this as they grow?
Sure, we teach them about the world. There are rules of society and there are natural consequences. But there is also choice. Intention. Alignment. And, the thing that brings it all together into a manageable life: intuition.
How do you teach a child to live a life like this?
You live it yourself.
Children learn in only three ways: example, example, example.