My top relationship tool – the one that yields amazing results year in and year out, day in and day out, even with close-quarters living like homeschooling a family of five, is only three adjectives long.
If you are having ongoing problems with someone, what are the top three adjectives that come to mind when you think about them?
If all three adjectives aren't positive (and chances are if you are having problems they aren't) then pick new ones. Pick new ones and then use those in your mind when that person is standing in front of you. Use them when that person is nowhere to be seen except passing through your mind. Any time that person is in your consciousness think of those adjectives and watch things change. And here is why:
The biggest rule of living in a vibrational Universe is since like attracts like...
You get what you expect.
Expectation is powerful. It's a "done deal". It's a solid foot on the ground that won't budge. Imagine what would happen if you said you wanted a fantastic income that was created in a way that made you super happy and you expected it. Expected it like you expect the meal you ordered at a restaurant to show up.
Or you said, "I will now meet my soul-mate-life-partner and you expected it. Expected it like you expect that chair to hold you up when you bend your legs with abandon to sit on it. Whoah. Life-altering. A game-changer. Powerful.
That's what your mind-adjectives are doing with your relationships.
So what adjectives should you choose?
Anything that feels good to you.
The list is endless.
Get out a thesaurus (or Google one) and have fun coming up with new ones. Pay attention to the adjectives you see in your life and make note of them. Ask for clarity about which ones are best and see what comes to you.
And if you can't think of one, get creative.
This past week I was spitting-mad at someone. I haven't been that mad in I can't remember when. There was no way I could think of three positive adjectives on my own. I was so far down the negative spiral I couldn't find my own light. There I was, dangling in the dark, held on by a thread of Law of Attraction practice and training. Slowly, slowly, I reached up with one hand to find a ledge. I prayed for help.
On the mantle. A bowl of Angel Cards [Amazon link]. Those are adjectives. I can pick three of those and use them. I don't even have to use my brain to choose. Which is good, since my brain is just a red blazing haze. So I did what I do with cards: I breathed, set my intent, closed my eyes, and felt them in piles and one-by-one until my hand buzzed.
"My intent is to pick three adjective to think about regarding [this person] that is in my highest good and the highest good of all involved."
(Which means it's good for them too.)
The adjectives that showed up were unique. Not ones I would have thought of myself. Each one brought me some insight into how I could feel better and also what was going on with the other person. The adjectives were both illuminating and positive.
It was a prayer doubly answered.
I was surprised when the relationship found its way out of that dark spiral so quickly, so easily, and so lovingly. It was a major transformation in just a few short steps that day. Some texting. Some questions. Some allowing. But there is no surprise really.
Anytime you are willing to meet someone at the highest vibe possible miracles occur. Only they aren't miracles anymore, they are just... natural.
Your adjectives take you there.
This is a very real issue at this time. Never before in all of human history has there been so much "internet" connecting us with information, energy, and ideas.
In this time, the vast amount of knowledge being passed back and forth requires an equally honed intent. By this we mean:
You gotta know what you want to know.
Before you set foot into the world of the internet be it social media, the news, or a direct website, ask yourself, "Why am I visiting this place?"
Some example intent might be:
But the idea here is: never make yourself wrong for what you want or need. Simply be aware of what you are using the internet FROM and you will understand what you are receiving from it.
If you go to the internet to complain, you will attract more instances of complaining. It is what you will see, and even participate in.
If you go to the internet to stave off boredom, you may find yourself inexplicably unfulfilled when you leave the internet experience and try to do something else.
Conversely, if you go to the internet looking for things that uplift you because you want to feel uplifted, you will find – even one in a million – the exact story or post or meme you need to pull you up and out into a broader, more connected version of your human self at that time.
It's all in what you seek.
And it's all in being honest about where you are and what you are about at that given time.
If you want to stay informed of the news but you do not know how to do it and stay balanced and happy ask yourself: why do I need to see the news? If it is to stay abreast of important events then set a new intent:
I want to feel as informed as is in my highest good while remaining as happy as I possibly can be so that I can be a light and a beacon in this world for myself and others.
Or whatever intent works for you.
Notice we mention "highest good" and we mention the WHY. Both important parts of an intent statement that will bring you the best, better, and bestest. ;)
More than you imagine.
Above all else, never, wherever possible, fault someone for where they are. The biggest challenge people face (energetically speaking) in social media is pushing. Pushing against an idea. Pushing against an opinion. Pushing against an anger.
Pushing, pushing, pushing.
All of that pushing causes stress and strain and disconnects you from who YOU truly are. Love. Light. Beauty of soul beyond anything you have ever seen or heard.
There is a belief in the greater mass consciousness at this time that we must stamp out the anger and oppression that exists. But while it is never a happy time to be in anger or to be oppressed it is equally unhappy to stamp.
It is much more powerful – and at times seemingly more difficult – to continue to be open-hearted, allowing, and above all else, kind.
But how do we do this when social media is full of challenge?
Have you set your intent before you entered the world of social media? Every time?
Try it and see.
And you may find, that when you set your intent to complain, or to stave off the boredom or uncomfortable feeling of the present moment, that those may not be in alignment with you after all, and that is the first step towards healing the world, through healing yourself.
Alora and the Guides
It's late January 2017 and the world is still finding balance from the United States Presidential Election. No matter how or if you voted, you may be noticing the massive energy rolling across the United States and many – if not all – parts of the world. Not just the political demonstrations and social media memes, postings, and discussions. The energy. The feeling.
The tipping of mass consciousness shifting.
I have been holding the light.
Picturing the harmony above it all.
Checking in with my values multiple times a day to see where I stand and where my alignment lies.
So I was not completely surprised when, in a gleeful moment of I have time to run down to my office and do something for ReallyGoodLife while the kids are busy in the snow! the Guides said:
Pick a card from your new animal spirit deck as a guiding, grounding force for this time.
So I did.
I don't shuffle the cards and take the top one. I feel the deck. I make piles. I sense which pile is the one that has the card in it. I keep feeling each card until one zaps me with energy and I know.
This is it.
As I turned the card over, I smiled.
Whenever I see a card that makes my brain go "eew" I know I'm in for something good.
The vulture is no different. Vastly misunderstood, the vulture is a guardian. A purifier. Essential for rebalance. In life the vulture balances the ecosystem and prevents the spread of disease. The vulture appears when a situation needs to be purified or brought back into balance. And like its appearance on the side of the road, the vulture's message can be shocking.
"What you thought was a mistake or tragedy is a blessing in disguise."
- The Wild Unknown
Wait. What? You may be asking:
What do I do with that?
Vulture energy asks you to clean and purify your space. If you are in balance it will clarify and reveal wisdom. If you are out of balance? Things can be aggressive and dramatic.
Are they for you?
I know this is a sensitive topic for many people and so I tread here lightly and gently. My intent is to help you heal if you feel broken, find a guiding light if you feel lost, or gather more strength to your heart's calling if you need it.
So regarding these very times Vulture energy asks:
"How is this election a blessing in disguise?"
Not to make make the election right.
Not to make it wrong.
But to make YOU right again. Right in your alignment. Right in your own power. Right in your own knowing. Right back into the heart of who you truly are.
I'm not saying it's easy.
I'm certainly not saying I have all the answers.
But when I look at the vulture card I am reminded that no matter what situation I have ever been in, no matter how horrible or painful or sad, when I found the blessing in it I found peace. And when I found peace I found my connection to myself again. And when I found my connection again I lined up with solution. And from there everything shifted.
I can't stop thinking about the six types of love the ancient Greeks had. It could be because I'm such a happy-go-lucky person that any excuse to think about love lights me up.
But it's more than that.
It's about our culture and how we let ourselves express ourselves. It's about increasing the language around love (and feelings like it) so we can identify more clearly what a person means to us – and how to know where they fit into our lives so we can stop feeling hurt, start feeling appreciation, and acknowledge the rich tapestry of life around us.
I just said "tapestry". This must be serious.
So here they are:
Do you see all the love?
When I read about this years ago the Sagittarius, ENFP, bouncy person in me squealed at the idea of ludic love. It wasn't just me! There IS love flowing around the Denny's at 1:00am after we got done with our theatre show.
But then I also felt the penny drop at seeing eros love in its own category. Had I ever confused that type of love with something else? Or something else with that type of love? Um. Yes.
Looking through the list I felt comfort in pragma, the idea that love was meant to age, change, and grow more... married.
And then I started to see the tapestry of my life rewoven again with this new clarity of love and it was.... beautiful. Perfect. My mistakes. My lost loves. My breakups. My celebrations. My marriage. My kids. My everything.
So I am sharing this with you so that you, two, can re-weave your life then, your life now, and your life to come with all the layers and beauty of love.
And, yes, I know, I said "tapestry" twice. It really is serious. :)
Agape love you!
P.S. I read about the six types of love in this article. It's really fantastic. Check it out.
If you are trying to manifest something and you are stuck or don't even know where to start a Mind Map can help. Usually when we think about something we think about the whole thing. This can cause problems.
"I want to lose weight."
From afar that statment seems pretty clear but when you take a closer look at it there are a gazillion moving parts inside of it.
The same goes for manifestations of career.
"I want a job I adore."
Even if you can find the feeling of that, when you zoom in on the topic even just a little bit you might feel overwhelmed at all it entails.
"I want to buy a house."
"I want to hire a cleaning service."
"I want to get a new car."
Look more closely. There are swirls and movements and layers inside every want – even the desires that seem rather simple like "I want a new shirt I can wear to work". What does that mean? What kind of shirt? What price? What look? What color?
Nothing is just one thing.
Let me explain.
In 2015 I realized I wanted to buy a house. I had never owned one before and the idea intrigued me. What would it be like to be able to paint the walls whatever color you wanted and stay as long as you can stay? Grow things in a yard you kept year after year? Build a long-term plan around your idea of "home"?
But then the idea felt overwhelming at times.
How do you do that house-buying thing? Mortgages and choices and long-term committment? My mind simultaneously snagged and ran rampant all at the same time. Was it the prospect of math or keeping it clean that daunted me or was it something else? Was getting a house in alignment with me? What comes next? Help!
That's when I learned how to do a Mind Map.
I have it somewhere here in my office... (Yes, the house I bought has an office for me! For me! Just for me! Muahahahaha!) but if I take the time to look for it I won't finish this post so I'll draw a new one on my computer instead. It's just an example and not completely filled in. Here it is. It's very fancy.
Here's how to make yours:
Mind Map Steps:
1. Get a piece of blank paper and draw a circle in the center. In that circle write what you want to manifest. Put a bit of feeling with it like: "A job I love" or "A life partner I adore and marry".
NOTE: While I made my Mind Map example online so I could put it in this post I recommed you use paper and pen/pencil. The process of writing is clarifying.
2. Draw a circle around that circle. In that circle write 2-3 things that are core concepts for what you want to manifest. Only write down things that feel good.
3. Around those circles on the paper, anywhere you want, start making lists. Brainstorm. Brain dump. Get out everything that comes to mind about that topic. For a job it could be:
For a change in weight it could be:
Whatever comes to mind, jot it down. Don't edit yourelf. While the writing inside the circles has to feel good the lists outside of the circles do not. If it comes to mind, write it down.
4. After you have you have completed your brainstorming / brain dump take a look at everything you have written – really pause and look – and circle the concepts or ideas or items that don't feel good.
Those are your blocks.
You may be surprised at what you didn't circle. I know I was.
In my Mind Map for manifesting a house I assumed I would have an issue with keeping it clean (because it would be a bigger house than the one I was currently renting in the Bay Area, darnit). But no, that wasn't a problem. I thought it would be leaving my friends. But no, that wasn't an issue either. Although I would miss them I felt at peace with the choice to move (as the Bay Area wasn't where I saw my new home) and I knew they supported me 100%.
It wasn't the money. The mortgage. The math.
It wasn't the prospect of gutters. Or choices. Or committment.
It was leaving family.
Specifically, my amazing in-laws who lived 20 minutes from us in San Jose. I stared at that circle on my Mind Map around "local family" and I lost it. Suddenly I was 6 years old all over again moving from New Jersey to Michigan with my new step-dad and mom and sister to a state where we knew no one. I was bereft. And I couldn't imagine doing that to my kids.
I was in a class when I made this Mind Map and my sharing partner was such a loving, warm soul. She was also a grandmother who's story was perfect for me right then and there. (Thank you, Universe.) She put her hand on mine and said: "My daughter and grandkids moved away to buy a house. It's hard but I know it's the right thing for them. They have to live their life and do what is best for them, just as you need to do the same for you and your family."
I looked into her eyes and a peace decended around me. Instead of a big, tangled, scary mess the idea of moving and buying a house suddenly seemed...doable. I knew what was bothering me and so now I knew what to work on. I could do that.
I grieved, and I let go.
What followed was an amazing turn of events so miraculous you just can't doubt the Universe's brilliance when you hear it. You see, I did move to a new state and I did buy my dream house (with my very own office!) and my in-laws are still 20 minutes away. They moved too. And now they live in THEIR dream house.
So don't let a project you are working on, whether it's health, career, money, love, or life in general, feel like an overwhelming issue forever. Make a Mind Map and see what you really need to work on, and maybe even more importantly, what you don't.
I have a lot of information I offer. A lot. A lot lot lot. So recently while I was pondering life in a sacred space (getting ready for the day in the bathroom) I asked myself: "How do I boil this down? How do I give you the essence of what I teach, what I do, and how I live in an easily digestible way?"
So I boiled. And.... voila! Here is it. A recipe for life.
So, if you are having trouble, visit this checklist to see where you need to tweak things. Remember, a great soup happens when all the flavors of the dish work in harmony. Yum.
My 7 Ingredient Soup for Living A ReallyGoodLife:
Some might call this "don't be co-dependent" but I think of it as a two-parter. You have the outer part which is you and other people. Don't give your power away to them (be co-dependent). But then what? That's the inner part. Remember you ARE Source. Connect to yourself. Connect to Source. Be inner-connected. Hooking up with Source means an endless supply of love, rejuvenation and acceptance. You can't not be something. Instead of trying not to be co-defendant be self-contained instead.
Seek Highest-Good Relief
This is the main reason why Positive Thinking or Law of Attraction or Success Mindset stuff doesn't work for many people. You can't just seek joy when you feel terrible. You need to seek relief first. But if you haven't decided to be happy no matter what, chances are your relief may be in the form of a short-term fix that has long-term negative effects. (Eat the whole cake, anyone? Or send that email you should have deleted instead? Or buy that thing? Or all those things?) Intend highest-good relief instead. When you learn to discern which choices are positive relief and which are destructive relief your entire life changes because now EVERYTHING is life-affirming. Even binging on Netflix. With a whole cake. In front of a new TV. But only if it feels aligned, yo.
Share From Solution
As much as you are able (because you will fail at this) don't complain. I'm serious. No more complaining. Not out loud. Not on Facebook. Not on email. Not anywhere. Your brain is a capitalist. It makes more of what is sold. If you complain a lot your brain makes more complaints. If you stop complaining out loud your brain makes less complaints and starts making more of what you are communicating instead. That's just good business. And since what you focus on becomes your life, when you stop complaining your life will positively shift into a life that requires no complaints. That doesn't mean you can't talk about what is bothering you, but when you do talk about it, you speak from a Solution Mindset. Like this. "Honey, when you leave your shoes in the middle of the room I trip on them at night. Would you be willing to put them in the corner instead?" If you can't think of a possible solution ("Ug! It's raining again!") then it's a straight-up complaint which needs to say in your head. Now I said you would fail at this. How can this be? I'm supposed to be a Positive Thinker (with capital letters and everything). But I tell you this because you will. And it's OK. Don't be upset with yourself. Just laugh and do your best. Because complaining about your complaining? That's so meta.
Do The Work
This one is mentionrd here in the middle but maybe it should be at the top. With blinking arrows. You have to do the work. Working with your thoughts is like working with your muscles. Just like you don't go to the gym once and wake up buff you won't wake up with a completely changed life after reading one article either. (Or will you? OoOOooOOoOh!) And just like when you let your gym membership lapse and your muscles go soft, the same process happens here. The good news is it only takes 15 minutes a day of doing SOMETHING to build these new habits of thought and you don't even have to put on work-out clothes or sweat. Your 15 minutes could be meditation, gratitude lists, scripting... It could be as simple as saying "I want to think thoughts that feel good" and then doodling on a napkin. Something. Every day.
Make More Choices
Making more choices could be a part of "Do The Work" but it's so important I am making it its own key ingredient. Your brain is like a GPS (or a Map App for you youngsters). It goes where you program it. If you don't program it it goes where it's used to going. And because we live in a vibrational world the end result is always a FEELING. (Got a new car? A job? A date? How does it feel? Got an email? A shopping errand? A relationship talk? How does it feel?) For example, if you are used to feeling icky when you go into work, then you will usually feel icky when you go into work. And you may have a lot of reasons why you feel icky. And they may be all valid. But until you DECIDE to feel good when you go into work you won't. Not consistently. Which is why making more choices is key to changing your life. Starting with the choice to feel good is the best one yet. Deciding to be happy no matter what is a prerequisite for all my clients because until you decide this no one can help. Getting up? Decide how you want to feel. Going on a trip? Decide how you want to feel. Going to answer the phone? Decide how you want to feel. Decide. You may not always get what you decide, but you will see massive change - positive, wanted change - in your life with this. I have decided.
Let your jaw drop. Be in awe. Be grateful. Appreciate. Did you know – appreciation is the closet vibration to Source. Not love. Appreciation. But then, what is love if not appreciation? What you appreciate you vibrate and what you vibrate you attract. You are what you appreciate. And if you can't appreciate? You are what you complain about. Eek!
Keep Your Geek
This is like "love yourself" only instead of an image of roses and candles and soft music it's like BAM! Full color out there. It took me having three kids and getting this old to realize: WE ARE BORN GEEKS. You were born a geek. Now don't worry that I'm going to slap a Star Trek insignia on you. You don't have to be a Science Fiction fantastic or a role-player to be a geek. A geek is "a person who has excessive enthusiasm for and some expertise about a specialized subject or activity." And even if you have forgotten it, you were born enthusiastic. You don't just end up on the planet without having a lot of focused desire to be here. And since the purpose of life is having fun, you thought it would be fun. Which means you came pre-qualified as a geek. So even if you try to hide it, your geek is still in there, eager to get out.
What is your particular geek? Well, it could be anything. You could be a geek in:
I heard about a homeschooled kid who adored turtles. It's all he every wanted to talk about, think about, play about, learn about... and so his parents said "yes". I'm happy to report they never tried to keep him from turtles so that he could become well-rounded to their standards (i.e. washed out). Instead, he grew up to become one of the world's foremost turtle experts.
That doesn't mean a passion has to become a profession.
I know a guy who loves to read financial articles so he can understand finance. Why? Because he loves it. You don't know his name because he's not blogging about it. He's just doing it. He's a finance geek.
And you don't have to focus your geek on one thing. Me? I'm a multiple geek. I'm a total Personal Growth Geek. Even when I'm not working with clients or writing to you I'm thinking about it and reading about it and talking about it. But I'm also a Harry Potter geek. And, if you ask my friends, I'm probably a geek in other areas too. Or probably just a total geek.
There is a passion in you for something whether it's a subject (Art History) or a thing (turtles) or a topic (holistic healing) or an activity (drawing) and if you stop trying to hide it, make it socially acceptable, or even understand why you have it you will LOVE IT.
And love is appreciation.
And what you appreciate you get more of.
And since what you get more of is ultimately a feeling...
... your life will feel GREAT.
And what life feels great when it's poor, unhealthy, lonely, or sad? No life. No life feels great like that. Which is why great feelings are the key.
Welcome to TOTAL ABUNDANCE. :)
I've been listening to Abraham for eleven years and every time they say things like "you are supposed to have contrast, it's a good thing" I nod my head sagely and agree. And then I throw a tiny little fit when the contrast happens. Because, you know. Contrast.
Just a tiny fit. I never, ever throw a big fit. *cough*
Today I'm so very happy because I get to be home. Yesterday I had to be out. And all of a sudden it hits me. I am enjoying this moment so much because of the contrast yesterday.
I ponder this as I do the dishes and that's when I remember the time the cleaners didn't show up. They had to cancel because someone was sick and it was hard to reschedule (well, they were happy to reschedule but I thought "Nah, let's just skip this time, that way we don't have to get up and get out of the house and, after all, I can vacuum and clean....") and then...
There was no vacuuming.
And no cleaning.
And the house got really dirty.
And by the next time the cleaners came at 10:00am, instead of the up-and-at-em-go-go-go rush of getting a homeschool family out the door at 10:00am after picking up the house so the cleaners can find the floor ("they're here put that down and get in the car!!!") it was this instead:
:twirling in a long floofy dress:
Because the cleaners were coming and the house would be cleaned and all we had to do was go somewhere fun while they cleaned it.
Contrast made the twice-montly cleaners extraction a joyful, amazing, beautiful thing.
Which means, just eleven short years after I learned about the Law of Attraction I really got it. I'm not the one who is going to secretly master the life of no contrast. I'm not going to reach some level of enlightenment where it is revealed that contrast is an illusion and I'm now above it. (Muhahaha. Assume the Buddha pose.)
Contrast. Is. Awesome.
But here's the kicker. I realized today over those dishes the one thing I didn't even know to ask for. You see, when I read about the concept of contrast I was picturing, well, contrast. And that means a lot of things, none of which are good.
It never occurred to me that I could ask for....
The perfect amount of contrast.
I want the perfect amount of contrast.
Which would be no more contrast-y than a busy day followed by a nice day at home. (I'm guessing.)
That's what Abraham says when they say you can live a life where contrast is only the difference between boredom and elation.
Huh. They weren't kidding.
You don't even have to dip down into feeling overwhelmed let alone writhe around in revenge, anger or depression and the change and appreciation and growth still occurs in the miraculous epiphany-awesome way I love.
So yes, instead of secretly pushing against contrast I will embrace the perfect amount of contrast.
Like right now.
Right now I want to stand up.
There, that feels better.
How about you?
How does your life change when you allow the perfect amount of contrast (even if that's a lot less contrast than you've been having?)
I hear birdsong!
Why does Positive Thinking often get a bad rap?
As a Positive Thinking enthusiast for over a decade I have often defended it. Explained it. Taught it. Through it all I have pondered its poor reputation. (Just think positive? Bah! And then pigs will fly over my piles of money, right?) But now, after all these years, I know the reason people turn their nose up at it.
It's been misnamed.
If you are already feeling positive, the term Positive Thinking sounds great. (Yes! Give me more of that!) But if you are feeling terrible, the term Positive Thinking can sound like a punch in the gut.
Oh, I'm going through all of this and now you want me to think positive too?!
Even if you can get past the initial sour-faced reaction about thinking positive, the doing of it often doesn't work. Not when you are really, really having a hard time – and you really, really need it. Pulling a positive thought into a depressed or angry brain is like dragging a suitcase without wheels through the airport. On carpet. When the plane is already boarding.
So instead I'm going to rename Positive Thinking. I'm going call it... um.... Positive-Thinking-Uness-You-Need-Relief-First Thinking. (It's catchy, don't you think?)
Because here's the deal: you can't have joy until you feel relief. And you can't feel relief if you are trying to pound a round thought into a square head. Wait, now we all look like SpongeBob SquarePants.
Where was I?
There are many teachers who recommend you look in the mirror and say affirmations over and over again to yourself even if they don't feel good. That never worked for me. Instead I had to find an affirmation that was even remotely doable.
"I'm beautiful inside and out!"
No, I don't feel beautiful. I'm wearing 10 day old sweat pants and I have baby spit on me and I can't remember when last I showered.
What feels like a better thought that I can actually maybe even try to believe?
"I'm proud of me."
Yes. Yes I am. Because this baby is doing well and I'm taking care of it despite the trail of houseplants I have left behind me. Huh.
Eventually, "I'm proud of me" became "I'm beautiful inside and out", sweatpants or not. Why? Because I needed the relief from feeling bad about myself before I could feel the possibility of liking myself.
But maybe I'm different. Maybe there are a lot of people who find affirmations work even if they hate them. Who find Positive Thinking a great idea even when they want to poke it in the eye. But mostly I find people who pick a different affirmation to repeat without perhaps realizing they are drawn to it because it's a relief-filled chocolate coated in positive potential instead of a huge, head-sized, how-am-I-going-to-swallow-that glump of sugar.
Glump. Yes, I just made that up.
So when the term Positive Thinking makes you scrunch up you face, remember my new name: Positive-Thinking-Uness-You-Need-Relief-First Thinking. Or PTUYNRFT for short.
With this knowledge you can look at perennially positive people not as strange aliens from an annoying planet but simply as people who have practiced the art of relief.
And now you can too.
Have you ever tried setting this intent before?
I was reading a blog post today about how a happy couple started off their marriage with a hilarious joke on their honeymoon. It reminded me about one of the most powerful intents there is:
It’s the intent to laugh.
Think about it.
We ask for joy. We ask for peace. But what do those look like? How do we measure them? If you’re anything like me, then sometimes on your path you wonder, “Am I even getting anywhere?”
But in a three-dimensional world where the physical manifestation of things are so juicy…
In the success-driven world we live in where measurable goals are a part of our early training….
Setting the intent to laugh – and to laugh out loud – can be a daily miracle.
You cannot laugh out loud without being connected to your Source. Without allowing your flow. Without being peace and joy. Laughing is the end result of all we ever want. (Even the laughter of deep, soul-healing relief.)
Imagine what can happen to your life when you add “laugh out loud” to your daily to do list. Imagine what can happen to your marriage (we crack each other up). Your friendships (we have so much fun we literally slap our knees). Your family (I can’t help but laugh).
Yourself. (I’m awesome. Hahaha!)
But don’t try to force it. Don’t try and figure out how or when. Just set the intent that laughing out loud would be really nice. Otherwise you’ll be trying to push the river and once you realize how silly that is, you might just have to laugh. :)
P.S. If you can’t feel laughter right now because it feels too far away from how you feel right now, set the intent to feel so much relief you laugh. That will build a bridge from where you are to where you want to be: laughing.
Abraham is a Law of Attraction channeling thing.
Abraham-Hicks is really two things. It’s Abraham and it’s Esther. Esther Hicks is a normal, everyday mom from Texas who happens to channel a group of non-physical beings named Abraham. Being non-physical, Abraham can talk to anyone at any time (even simultaneously) so to distinguish the unique way it comes through Ester they called their company Abraham-Hicks.
Abraham came after Seth. Seth was one non-physical being (vs. a collective group like Abraham is) who was channeled by Jane Roberts. Seth explains in detail the nature of reality. Abraham’s teachings are, if you ask me, a less scientific version of Seth’s extraordinarily technical explanations and advice about how the world works.
In popular terms, Abraham is a Law of Attraction teacher.
What is channeling?
Channeling is when you quiet your brain and allow non-physical beings to give you packets of information through your intuition that you interpret into words. You’re just the straw – or channel – the information comes through. And if you don’t know anything about channeling take it from me – Esther Hicks is like the Michael Jordan of channeling. She is one of the best of the best.
Is it weird?
Reading and hearing channeled messages can feel weird, especially if you aren’t used to it. But once you stop worrying about where the information is coming from and you start listening to the information itself you can very quickly forget it’s supposed to be weird. The information is just so… helpful… that it becomes easy to let it be what it is just so you can use it.
Well, her voice is weird...
It is in the earlier recordings, isn’t it? :)
If you listen to the free Introduction to Abraham (which I highly recommend) you can hear how different Esther’s voice is now than it was back then. That’s because she was resisting things in the beginning and over the years she learned to relax and go with the flow of the channeling proces. I guess when some non-physical beings want to talk through you you might tense up a bit.
How I came to know Abraham.
Back in the early 2000’s when I was struggling with my relationship with my Guides, my purpose, and the meaning of life, someone handed me a cassette tape. (A cassette tape! Ha!)
“I feel like you should have this,” they said. “Keep it.”
So I did.
That cassette tape rattled around in my belongings for years. I brought it from one place to the next, packed among my paperclips and notebooks. I just couldn’t bring myself to listen to it. Or rather, I couldn’t bring myself to listen to much of it. Once in a while I would start the cassette, wrinkle my nose at it, and then toss it back in the box of miscellaneous stuff. I was unwilling to listen to it but I couldn’t throw it away either. So there it lived. In limbo. Waiting.
I remember the day I brought that cassette tape out for good. I was living in Ashland, Oregon and I had a husband and a wee toddler. I was depressed. Very depressed. After a rocky relationship with my Guides (co-depending on my part, come to find out) I had told them to hit the road and I had been living for months in the proverbial dark. Cut off from my intuition I spiraled into the fear, stress and anxiety known to many.
It sucked. :(
And that’s when something in me clicked. At the urging of my husband, and with the love of my daughter and the desire to be a good mother pulling me hard, I dug my face up off the couch and vowed to make a change. Suddenly, the face of the friend who gave me the tape came to my mind and I made a wild, desperate declaration. I promised I would – finally – give her advice a real chance.
“One year,” I said to no one in particular. “I will give this stuff once year.” If it worked, great. If not, I could finally toss that cassette. After all, I’d tried everything else. From psychology to Tarot to Shamanism, this kooky Law of Attraction felt like it was all that was left for me to explore.
I kept my word. And oh, how I hated that first year.
“You create your own reality,” Abraham said. Well, that’s a bunch of bull. I didn’t choose to create all of those horrible heart-breaking relationships and situations.
“You need to decide to be happy no matter what,” Abraham said. Well, that’s a load of rocks for me to drag around. Being happy means you’re selfish and don’t care about what’s happening to people in the world. At least that’s what I was taught.
“Just think better thoughts”, Abraham said. Grrrrrrr.
But I stuck with it. Through gritted teeth I listened to Abraham tapes. I read Abraham books. I tried to apply the teachings. And little by little by little understanding began to dawn.
“I did create those situations.”
“I haven’t decided to be happy.”
“My thoughts are horrible!”
And with that, I pivoted 180 degrees and saw the light. My light. It was small at first but over the years, with continued practice, the teachings of Abraham and LOA have helped me peel back the curtain and create a life I absolutely, genuinely, truly adore.
Through all of these years – over a decade an counting – I haven’t heard one thing Abraham has said that hasn’t resonated with me as Truth with a capital T. Not one. Not even when I was kicking and screaming about it.
They are, by far, my favorite Law of Attraction resource, now thankfully on digital downloads. :)
Tips for living your best life yet. :)