What is one thing you can do to help a new big dream come true?
Stop talking about it. :)
This has really helped me manifest some major things. And it has helped others too, who once were stuck.
But as always: do what YOU are inspired to do.
Sometimes you have to tell people about your dream for some reason. Like I did. That's OK if they don't support your vision. Now you know what to do to get back on track.
I learned something amazing when I took classes at the Center for Spiritual Living (CSL) in San Jose, CA. I learned about having a Prayer Partner.
In one 15-20 minute call per week, you and a friend can make miracles happen.
I could go on an on about why having a Prayer Partner works. You have someone to help you get clear on what you want. You have someone helping to hold your vision for you even when you can't. You have a weekly "target" that helps you keep positive momentum going. You have the uplifting experience of holding a vision for someone else. You cultivate a beautiful service mindset. You learn to focus on the positive. You learn to ask for help. You learn to celebrate. You learn to connect. There's more, I'm sure of it.
How do you have weekly Prayer Partner calls? I wrote up these guidelines based on the CSL Prayer Partner instructions.
And, don't forget... have fun! :)
Partner 1: I had successes this past week! I'm so grateful! [Here they are...] Right now I am feeling stuck at work. I have a new project and I don't feel supported. I want it to be a success.
Partner 2: So you want to feel supported?
Partner 1: Yes.
Partner 2: I am going to say a prayer for you.
Here is where Partner 2 makes something up. You speak from the heart. If you need help creating a prayer, the Centers for Spiritual Living have a prayer formula they use which is powerful as it covers five important parts of conscious creation from knowing to gratitude to letting go. You can see instructions here. If it feels awkward sharing prayers for each other at first, that's OK! You are allowed to laugh. :) Just keep trying and you will get the hang of it. The positive changes in your lives you share with each other will give you the courage to go deeper and bolder with your visions, your prayers, and your appreciation.
Hi! I did it! I snuck down into my office again. :) A client asked me about soul mate manifestation tips and I thought, Hey, this is something a lot of people would love to know. Maybe I'll make a video about it!
There are a lot of things that can be said about the topic. This is a great starter to that.
In this quick video I tell you:
One more sneaky video! Ok, this video is not a secret but I did sneak down to my office to record it while my family was occupied. So here it is: Tada! How to do a mind map. Someone was asking about it this week and I said I would give them instructions. More people asked. Then I decided to do a video. Then I did a video and realized I had already written a blog post about how to do a mind map. Huh. But maybe someone would prefer video instructions so I'm posting this video anyway.
If you have a big dream that feels too big to manifest, do a mind map.
You may find that the dream is really right on track and you only have a few (or one) small adjustments to make.
Hope it helps!
So.... I had a really big energetic shift and it felt WONDERFUL. And then it felt like "aaaaaarg" and "waaaaaaa" because all of a sudden things in my life started falling apart. Like miscommunications and uncomfortable relationship surprises. What the heck?
Then I remembered: when you shift everything shifts.
So how did I move through it?
I talk about that in this video. I tell you about a tool you can use to help you in the in-between time. And I also reveal why my messy hair sticking up all over the place was a good thing. True story.
I was asked about how to line up with the energy, idea, and actualization of the body you want. I've used Law of Attraction tools to lose weight twice. (I gained weight years later when I had my third baby, but that's another story.)
My favorite part about using Law of Attraction for weight loss is that once you maneuver your mind into alignment the actions you take are easy. They are inspired. They FEEL GOOD. That means no standing there staring at the donut wishing you could eat it while fighting the urge. No HAVING to go to the gym.
(I don't know about you but I am so bad at disciplined action. Like, terrible.)
So here's an intro! Or rather, here is some stream of consciousness talking about this topic. I should probably make an outline. I'm thinking I'll go into more details about these steps and how to apply them later. But if I don't and you want to hurry me along, or you have a specific question you want me to video about, let me know. Or you can get 1-1 insight and help just for you if you like.
The more I learn about myself the more I love myself.
I think understanding ourselves is the key to acceptance and celebration. Accepting who we are (I pack last minute for a trip no matter how much time I have on my hands). Accepting who we are not (I am not someone who is going to pack in advance no matter how much time I have on my hands.) When we learn who we are and, perhaps more importantly, who we are not, we can find our place in the world. We can find our PEACE in the world.
And we can stop pushing against other people too.
For example, I’m an ENFP. In Myers-Briggs speak that means I am extroverted, I love big ideas and future thinking, I’m feeling-oriented, and I love options. The more options the better. So am I going to like a job where I work alone, doing small, repetitive tasks based on detailed data with a set schedule, every day?
Oh my gosh no.
I’m also not going to pack my suitcase in advance. (Have I mentioned that already?)
But someone is.
And once I learned about Myers-Briggs and realized not everyone thinks data analysis is the equivalent of mental sunburn–like oh-my-gosh some people love it as much as I love talking about the nature of consciousness–I found myself relaxing.
I don’t have to be like them and they don’t have to be like me.
The world really is full of amazing people, all parts of a big, beautiful whole.
I’m also a Highly Sensitive Person. Which means I startle easily and can’t handle loud noises. But I’m also really sensitive to frequencies which is why I’m an excellent Law of Attraction Guide. I honestly can tell when people are aligned. I can sense it.
I can even feel it because I’m a Highly Sensitive Person AND an empath. Which is like HSP+ because my emotions and your emotions... whose is whose? You can imagine the hijinks that ensued in my 20's navigating relationships before I learned energetic boundaries.
And my love language is Words of Affirmation. So if you say something nice or make me laugh, I’m putty in your hands. Unless your intentions are not good. Because you know I can feel them.
Oh, and come to find out ENFPs are often totally into the spiritual realms. So you can say I’m destined to be sitting here right now talking about big ideas of consciousness and change with you.
We pick who we want to be before we are born you know.
How about you?
How do you recharge, absorb data, make decisions, and feel loved?
What else can you tell me about you? I want to know!
If you want to manifest anything the answer is simple:
Breathe in its essence.
Breathe is more than just the air we need to live — it's our soul. When we breathe we are literally breathing in spirit, allowing the Source of All That Is to fill us. In a moment of conscious in-breath we become more clear, more aligned, and more sure of our purpose than before.
Try it. Breathe in.
We become more blended with our inner being. We become more aware, consciously, of our soul.
How does this apply to regular day-to-day manifestation?
How do we align with money, health, and great relationships by simply breathing?
It goes back to the essence of things.
Money, health, and great relationships are the result of what? They are the result of allowing the very things the Universe is made of: Joy, Love, and an unending sense of excited, eternal, creative, empowered FREEDOM.
The freedom to be able to do what we feel called to do when we feel called to do it (money).
The freedom to express our unbounded love fully and completely (relationships).
The freedom to enjoy this physical time-space reality fully (health).
The details of life can be very enticing. And when that word is used in a positive way it means they are interesting, uplifting, and calling to us. "Yes! I am in agreement with You. The big you that is aligned with your soul, your calling, and YOUR Universal essence."
That particular automobile or type of house or location to work, live, or visit. That particular career or detail or relationship status that sparks you up.
Let it light you on fire with joy.
Let it brighten you and your day illuminating everything around you through its specific glee.
"Yes! I want this!"
But as soon as that detail feels uncomfortable or stifling or dipped in fear (if it ever does) pull back and breathe in the essence again.
"I want this career because it feels good. I want to feel good. I want to feel joy and love and light. I want to feel illuminated. Lit from within by the amazing power of All That Is."
"I want to breathe in alignment with myself."
It's like walking through a flower garden.
The moment you enter its space you breathe. You may even tilt your head back and smile. And then something catches your eye. A flower over there you've never seen before. You eagerly go over and inspect it. You breathe IT in. And then you realize its fragrance is not pleasing to you.
Do you force yourself to stay there forever only looking at that flower because you picked it first?
Of course not.
You lift your head and look around. You breathe again the combination of the garden until another flower calls to you and you go there. And again. And again. Enjoying the process until you find yourself, arms full of flowers (the ones you indeed want to plant in your own backyard).
This is life.
Something interests you about someone.
You go on a date.
You realize on the date that they are not someone you want to continue seeing.
Don't stay there in the corner. Lift your head again and breathe in the essence of partnership. Imagine yourself filling up with the concept of love and right partnership and ease.
Enjoy the garden of opportunity.
And then, in one moment of allowing, another flower calls to you. Something about it is interesting.
You go to inspect.
And on and on. Gaining clarity about what you like and about what you don't like.
"These flowers are beautiful but as I think about it they won't look good against the color of my deck."
"These flowers are the right color but they won't be tall enough to reach beyond my planter box the way that I like."
"These flowers need more sun than I currently have in that place."
There are many reasons we might realize a relationship, a career, or an opportunity are not exactly in alignment.
And, perhaps the most often overlooked component of all:
"Based on who I already have in my life that I love and want to keep, these flowers are not in the Highest Good of all of us."
If you are already in a relationship, or have kids, or care for extended family, or are in any close group of relationships you care deeply about that manifestation will affect, breathe in the essence so that ALL align with it and harmony will appear.
The process of buying flowers is often a joyful one. You know you want beauty surrounding you. You know it is completely possible to have it. You know you have ultimate choice over what it turns out to be.
To a degree.
Because sometimes the flower won't thrive, or a squirrel will get it, or you'll forget to water.
But that's OK. That's life in the garden, and you forgive yourself.
Because sometimes tulips will bloom where you didn't even know they were planted.
It's all so AMAZING.
How do they even do it? Just a little water and look! They grow!
It's the same with you.
Your soul manifested on earth to garden a life.
Are you standing in the corner frowning over an insect you wish were not there?
Are you trapped in a corner smelling flowers that don't please you only because you are so busy complaining you have forgotten to walk away?
Do you realize that there are flowers you've never seen before, out there, waiting to delight you?
The essence of life is breath. The art of manifestation is aligning with the essence of what you want.
There is not one person on the Earth who did not choose to be here. Earth is an opt-in place, and every soul decided YES. YES, I WANT TO GO.
This is the mystery of our lives.
In broad terms we are here to have fun. Something called to us about this place.
It could be something else or all of the above but the Deep Truth is: you came here on purpose and WITH purpose.
Why did you choose your family? Your country of origin? Your circumstances?
The real truth?
You may never fully know.
But if you want to know as much as you can, open your intuition and receive.
My Quero Apache auntie, Maria Yraceburu, gave me the most beautiful image for personal growth year ago. She told me that life is a spiral.
Think about a spiral. Picture one in front of you or draw one on a piece of paper. Trace it with your finger.
You will notice that sometimes your finger seems to be going backwards or downwards. Sometimes your finger seems to be going forwards or upwards.
But no matter what your finger is doing in each moment the spiral itself is always, always going up and expanding.
That is life.
Sometimes you have a huge epiphany only to need down time to process it. Sometimes you make a big change in your life only to need a break. Sometimes you have had a break for a while and then you... you get the point?
Inner, outer, inner, outer... we work in the outside world and process it in our inner world. We get information or the urge to change from our inner world and we process it in our outer world.
So if you are wanting to make change in your life...
...if you want a better relationship with your kids, or to get back into shape, or to increase the feeling of partnership with your partner and you feel like you are going backwards remember the spiral.
You are not supposed to have a life without any conflict or challenge. That is no life at all. But it is what you do with that conflict and challenge that creates the life you want.
"Gosh, this sucks, what have I learned about what I prefer?"
"Wow, I'm ready to be over this depressed feeling. How can I reach for a better thought or a better today?"
"Hey! Things are awesome!!! I love my life! I'm going to try this new idea out... whoa, OK, guess that wasn't exactly what I had in mind... now what, how can I improve upon my idea?"
Be easy on yourself.
Be kind to you.
And remember...sometimes a cycle it may feel like it will last forever. But just as kids grow up, just as seasons change, you, too, cycle. And the experiences you are having are always bring your soul up.
Wake up your intuition, know yourself, and make friends with your mind. You're in for the time of your life.